Babe magazine published an account of a 23 year old woman going under a pseudonym, “Grace” who says she was sexually assaulted by Aziz Ansari on a date last year. Grace goes into detail about her evening with Anzari, who she met at an Emmy after-party in 2017. In her account she says they met at his apartment before going out to a very quick dinner, after which she was rushed home and subject to a long night of Ansari ignoring her various cues that his advances were not going over. ““He probably moved my hand to his dick five to seven times. He really kept doing it after I moved it away,” she told Babe magazine. “It was 30 minutes of me getting up and moving and him following and sticking his fingers down my throat again. It was really repetitive. It felt like a fucking game.”
She compared the comedian’s behavior to a horny and aggressive 18 year old boy, rather than a successful 34 year old celebrity who claims to support the #TimesUp movement and even wrote a book on Modern Romance. “I didn’t leave because I think I was stunned and shocked,” she told the magazine. “This was not what I expected. I’d seen some of his shows and read excerpts from his book and I was not expecting a bad night at all, much less a violating night and a painful one.”
Ansari responded to the text she sent him the next day letting him know how she felt about the encounter last September. “Last night might have been fun for you,” she wrote, “it wasn’t for me.” She told him that he had ignored clear signals that she was uncomfortable and yet kept pushing. “You may have said “its okay, only fun if we’re both enjoy it, lets just chill but within moments of that, your fingers were down my throat. You were putting my hand on your dick continuously. It’s like nothing changed even after I expressed that I’d like to slow it down.” She says she wrote how she felt so that he might rethink his behavior with the next girl. His response: “I’m so sad to hear this,” he responded. “Clearly, I misread things in the moment and I’m truly sorry.”
Grace says she debated for some time whether she considered this a bad date or actual assault, and ultimately determined that it was a sexual assault. “It took a really long time for me to validate this as sexual assault. I was debating if this was an awkward sexual experience or sexual assault. And that’s why I confronted so many of my friends and listened to what they had to say, because I wanted validation that it was actually bad.”
Late Sunday Ansari also released a statement responding to the allegations in the article. “The next day, I got a text from her saying that although ‘it may have seemed okay,’ upon further reflection, she felt uncomfortable,” he wrote. “It was true that everything did seem okay to me, so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned. I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking the time to process what she had said.” He added, “I continue to support the movement that is happening in our culture. It is necessary and long overdue.”
Read Grace’s full account at babe.net.
This is the text Grace* sent Aziz Ansari after their date which left her feeling “violated”. She tells Ansari how uncomfortable he made her feel, saying “you ignored clear non-verbal cues” and “kept going with advances.”
— babe (@babedotnet) January 14, 2018