A Father’s Letter to Victoria’s Secret

Every father rues the day that his little girl discovers push up bras and crotch-less panties.

Read more at evandolive.com.

Dear Victoria’s Secret,
I am a father of a three year old girl. She loves princesses, Dora the Explorer, Doc McStuffins and drawing pictures for people. Her favorite foods are peanut butter and jelly, cheese and pistachios.
Even though she is only three, as a parent I have had those thoughts of my daughter growing up and not being the little girl she is now. It is true what they say about kids, they grow up fast. No matter how hard I try I know that she will not be the little ball of energy she is now; one day she will be a rebellious teenager that will more than likely think her dad is a total goof ball and would want to distance herself from my embarrassing presence.
I know that this is far down the line and I try to spend as much time as I can with her making memories of this special time.
But as I read an article today posted on The Black Sphere, it really got me thinking that maybe the culture that we currently find ourselves in is not helping the cause.
Recently I read an article that Victoria’s Secret is launching a line of underwear and bras aimed at middle school aged children. The line will be called “Bright Young Things” and will feature ” lace black cheeksters with the word “Wild” emblazoned on them, green and white polka-dot hipsters screen printed with “Feeling Lucky?” and a lace trim thong with the words, “Call me” on the front.”
As a dad, this makes me sick.
I believe that this sends the wrong message to not only my daughter but to all young girls.
I don’t want my daughter to ever think that her self-worth and acceptance by others is based on the choice of her undergarments. I don’t want my daughter to ever think that to be popular or even attractive she has to have emblazon words on her bottom.
I want my daughter (and every girl) to be faced with tough decisions in her formative years of adolescence. Decisions like should I be a doctor or a lawyer? Should I take calculus as a junior or a senior? Do I want to go to Texas A&M or University of Texas or some Ivy League School? Should I raise awareness for slave trafficking or lack of water in developing nations? There are many, many more questions that all young women should be asking themselves… not will a boy (or girl) like me if I wear a “call me” thong?
I want my daughter to know that she is perfect the way she is; I want my daughter to know that no matter what underwear she is wearing it does not define her.
I believe that this new line “Bright Young Things” thwarts the efforts of empowering young women in this country. “Bright Young Things” gives off the message that women are sex objects. This new line promotes it at a dangerously young age.
I implore you to reconsider your decision to start this line.
By doing so you will put young girl’s self-esteem, self-worth and pride above profits.

Rev. Evan Dolive
Houston, TX


  1. Captain Geech

    March 26, 2013 at 5:03 pm

    maybe teach your daughter those things yourself.

    • Cosgraves

      March 26, 2013 at 5:20 pm

      Exactly, this guy is a melodramatic asshole,, it’s your daughter you teach her whatever you want.
      If we are gonna save children from things Victoria secret low on the list
      @Captain Geech

      • zel

        March 26, 2013 at 5:24 pm

        @Captain Really? You think it’s ok to start marketing lingerie and lingerie like things to middle-school aged kids?
        Also, your comment that saving kids from Victoria Secret is low on the list is a fallacy. There is no list. We don’t have to do other things before Victoria Secret can decide to not market sex-related clothing to children. Because that’s what this sounds like, no doubt about it.
        We are, surprisingly, capable of doing many things at one time. This wouldn’t even be doing many things at one t ime. This would be not doing something at all.

      • Badger1225

        March 26, 2013 at 8:36 pm

        @zel  @Captain The key word is Market.  It’s offered for sale, you or your daughter has to make the decision to buy it.  No one will be there with a gun or knife forcing you to buy it.  Be a parent, teach them values and trust they will hold onto them.

      • zel

        March 26, 2013 at 8:53 pm

        @Badger1225  @Captain You’re right. But again, peer pressure is sometimes as strong than a knife or gun.
        Also, Market is just one key word.
        Necessary is another key word. As in “It is not necessary for Victoria Secret to market sexually provacative products to pre-teens.
        Public outreach. Two words. As in “This father is allowed, and should be encouraged, in taking part in public outreach towards Victoria Secret in an attempt to encourage Victoria Secret from selling these products.
        Profit. One word that is too often used to justify ends.
        Just because something CAN be sold doesn’t mean it should.

    • zel

      March 26, 2013 at 5:20 pm

      @Captain Geech
       Sounds like he will. But having been a teenager yourself, I’m sure you’re aware of what peer pressure can do to a kid.
      I’d just as soon not have my daughter (just turned 1) subjected to this type of choice when she’s 13, 14, or 15 because:
      1) She’ll probably just want to do the opposite of what her father wants, and
      2) She will most likely not understand the consequences of the decisions she makes
      Most of us teach our children not to do drugs, but we steal make drugs illegal.

      • Captain Geech

        March 26, 2013 at 5:30 pm

        @zel save us from ourselves.

      • zel

        March 26, 2013 at 5:32 pm

        @Captain Geech That’s the point. Pre-teens and young teens can’t save themselves. That’s why they have parents.
        That’s also, by the way, why we have systems of laws and a government. Because anarchy sucks.

  2. TheDonCarpenter

    March 26, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    “Should I raise awareness for slave trafficking or lack of water in developing nations? ”
    Asked no one. Ever.

    • Captain Geech

      March 26, 2013 at 5:33 pm

      @TheDonCarpenter At least he will have Vicky’s Secret to blame when his daughter is sucking diyk at 16.

  3. WolfgangFreyjaFrigault

    March 26, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    i smell a work

  4. Amsterclam

    March 26, 2013 at 5:29 pm

    I sympathize but this guy isn’t ready to deal with a 13 year old girl realistically.  Kids that age are a bundle of hormones. He’s hoping for a larger, smarter 6 year old.

    • Captain Geech

      March 26, 2013 at 5:48 pm

      @Amsterclam That’s exactly the problem with everyone that thinks like this, they want to raise lifetime children. When you have a kids you are raising an eventual adult. Teach them adult stuff you dummies.

  5. ecupirate

    March 26, 2013 at 5:31 pm

    Piss off dad, Don’t worry when your daughter turns 17 ant will fuck her too.

    • elephant_droid

      March 26, 2013 at 8:04 pm

      @ecupirate About the same time he turns 149, Ant is a vampire.

  6. Fa Q

    March 26, 2013 at 5:34 pm

    Somebody keep an eye on this guy immediately. He’s up to some shenanigans with little girls I guarantee it. This is his cover I smell a rat

  7. HorrorFighter

    March 26, 2013 at 5:35 pm

    Hard to believe that someone who signed a letter “Rev.” would find issue with Victoria’s Secret.

  8. Captain Geech

    March 26, 2013 at 5:36 pm

    Every time I hear one of these twits say shit like this or “what am I suppose to tell my children” I immediately think they should have the kids taken away for being too stupid to procreate.

  9. MicroMonkey

    March 26, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    His daughter is obviously a fat waterhead

  10. AndrewMorris1

    March 26, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    gonna throw my honest “Dad” opinion out there again…be truthful with your kids tell them exactly what that piece of clothing makes you look like and why guys like it…end result is that she will have to make her own choice at some point.  I want her to have all the facts upfront instead of some cheeky advertisement or neighborhood kids.

  11. SpeedKills

    March 26, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    Anthony Cumia has alot of money tied up into this clothing line, its jerks like this that make him so jaded.

  12. AndrewMorris1

    March 26, 2013 at 5:55 pm

    There is like 5000 other things a girl could wear…I mean literally they have not saturated the market enough…I think it would be sick for a parent to guide their kid into being a slut but this is just one of 4999 other choices.

    • Captain Geech

      March 26, 2013 at 5:59 pm

      I know one thing. You’ll NEVER find any little girl slut clothes at Wal Mart or places like that…

  13. DanARou

    March 26, 2013 at 6:10 pm

    I guess Centaurs don’t use a rarely known website called snopes http://www.snopes.com/politics/sexuality/victoriassecret.asp

  14. TimLemerande

    March 26, 2013 at 6:14 pm

    Dear Rev,
    Just tell you daughter that at the age of 3 you are not going to allow her to dress like a whore. If a company markets a product and nobody buys it then eventually the company will take the product off the market. Remember “New Coke”?

    • SpeedKills

      March 26, 2013 at 6:15 pm

      @TimLemerande I once boycotted Crystal Pepsi as a racist product!

  15. Moe Green

    March 26, 2013 at 6:23 pm

    His wife made him write this. He still didn’t get any action from it.

  16. DerekJamesSmith

    March 26, 2013 at 6:27 pm

    In the US When It comes to cash, children are fair game. I hope they advertise this shit on the Cartoon Network

  17. Moon Rocks

    March 26, 2013 at 6:31 pm

    Just talk to your kids, Rev, before the devil a hold of their lil undergarments.

  18. cwmmate

    March 26, 2013 at 6:40 pm

    Personally, I think it’s stupid, and assuming the number of really stupid and ignorant parents out there, maybe VS should just shut this thing down right now. However, I’d like to think parents would be smart enough to know that buying suggestive clothes gives their kids and other kids the wrong idea, and they should probably try and teach their kids that.
    Like a few have said in posts below; A lot of parents want to believe that they will have control of their kids teenage years and beyond, but that is not realistic, because we are humans. At some point in almost everyone’s life, they decide on their own what they will be in the world. Sometimes no amount of good parenting will change that, and sometimes you could be a mess of a parent and have great kids. There’s no formula to it. The suggestive underwear for underage kids is kind of far to go though.

  19. Toin Coss

    March 26, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    Does the outfit come with a miniature Stripper’s Pole?

  20. DanARou

    March 26, 2013 at 6:59 pm

    I think maybe the centaur has cast a spell on so many stupid people, IT’S A WORK!!!!! http://www.snopes.com/politics/sexuality/victoriassecret.asp

    • cwmmate

      March 26, 2013 at 7:18 pm

      @DanARou This man speaks the truth. The reverend who posted this was completely misinformed. By stating that he had a daughter in it and he wanted her to grow up without being “overly sexualized”, he was trying to give people a false sense of sympathy. Plus, there was never actually a clothing line aimed at middle school aged girls in the first place.
      This link is to his update on the post.

  21. JonNockels

    March 26, 2013 at 7:26 pm

    You should read Uncle Paul’s letter to Victoria Secret…

  22. FLprodivider66

    March 26, 2013 at 7:37 pm

    So they’re going to start selling little girls G-String panties now??…Hold on I need to run to the bathroom 😮

  23. Gunner

    March 26, 2013 at 8:17 pm

    First of all, any father that is concerned with his daughters underwear is a little creepy. Secondly instill those beliefs at home, do your job as a father. Never leave your moral decisions up to a corporation, they will chose profits everytime!

  24. deliciousv

    March 26, 2013 at 8:21 pm


  25. Glennfah

    March 26, 2013 at 8:44 pm

    He’s a little too concerned about his three year old’s undies.

  26. Vickroy

    March 26, 2013 at 9:15 pm

    She’s ending up in the pole. Even odds.

  27. Vickroy

    March 26, 2013 at 9:15 pm

    She’s ending up on the pole. Even odds

  28. rexdart936

    March 26, 2013 at 10:39 pm

    i hope these are vibrating panties with a dora the explorer face on the crotch.

  29. rexdart936

    March 26, 2013 at 10:47 pm

    What the world needs is a Casey Anthony line of panties for little girls.  Each pair is boldly embossed with the “beautiful life” logo and comes complete with a gps locator just in case the wearer gets locked in the trunk of an abandoned toyota.

  30. Beer

    March 26, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Doc mcstuffins?…. Really

  31. cigarsNscotch

    March 26, 2013 at 11:35 pm

    If he’s not happy with Victoria Secrets line of Middle Schooler underwear, he shop for her at Fredrick’s of Hollywood.

  32. cigarsNscotch

    March 26, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    cigarsNscotch 0 pts
    If he’s not happy with Victoria Secrets line of Middle Schooler underwear, he should shop for her at Fredrick’s of Hollywood.

  33. cigarsNscotch

    March 26, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    If he’s not happy with Victoria Secrets line of Middle Schooler underwear, he should shop for her at Fredrick’s of Hollywood.

  34. K Dubya

    March 26, 2013 at 11:51 pm

    I have a daughter and as a rule I don’t get involved in any aspect of her underwear choices because I am not a creep

  35. runawayralph

    March 27, 2013 at 1:16 am

    Shell be back to Raggedy Ann at twelve or thirteen.

  36. galactictraveler

    March 27, 2013 at 1:55 am

    With all of these “good ” Christians there will never be a shortage of strippers !

  37. mayukhc

    March 27, 2013 at 4:58 am

    Dear Unborn Daughter,
    I have enough doubts if the world is the right place for you. However hard I may try you will hear of Paris Hilton before you do of Helen Keller, you will be forced to idolize the gyrations of a catwalk than the genius of a Marie Curie, you will aim acceptance by a man to define your social status rather than aiming for the charisma of a Golda Meir or the greatness of a Mother Teresa, and your self-esteem will be cannibalized by people who commoditize you everyday and then stick-out the carrot of a “women’s day” campaign to create a matrix of respect for you…
    Please do not be cross if  ever dad decided not to get you in this filth.
    an unborn Dad

  38. Roadrash Hicks

    March 27, 2013 at 6:52 am

    Doc McStuffins?

  39. Morgan McNasty

    March 27, 2013 at 8:34 am

    This is how have every dad with a daughter feels, the quicker he excepts the fact that she will grow up to be a whore jizz bucket, the easier his life will be.

  40. WilliamFBaldwin

    March 27, 2013 at 9:41 am

    I was out at she loves princesses

  41. Maybrick

    March 27, 2013 at 10:36 am

    Pointless without pictures.

  42. OllieInChicago

    March 27, 2013 at 11:23 am

    Rev. Evan’s going to develop Carpal Tunnel writing letters to every clothing designer/manufacturer in the world.

  43. LewisGregory

    March 27, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    What a fag! If your girl wants to wear slutty underwear, who gives a shit?  Just get her some birth control and let her do her thing.  Guy is obviously paranoid about his horrible parenting skills.  Don’t blame Victoria Secret for teen girls being sluts, blame their parents.

  44. Impostor

    March 27, 2013 at 2:23 pm

    Would be better if he included a pic of her so i can jack it.

  45. HollyGothic

    March 28, 2013 at 7:34 am

    Many times, I have seen really young girls walking out of VS. Often with young guys.

  46. Dark_Humor

    March 28, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    What makes him think that his daughter will be wearing any underwear with that tight mini dress.

    • LewisGregory

      March 29, 2013 at 12:48 am

      @Dark_Humor Booo Yaaaaaa!!!!

  47. Lori

    March 30, 2013 at 9:28 am

    Thank you Rev Evan Dolive for your letter ,…We need to stop making women objects and teaching the young girls that they are better then this ..and for the jerks who commented like pigs those are the ones that want to keep women as objects only and we wear them for that…lol…..So we see what kind of men think its where you belong Please girls go to school ,or see what kind of men thinks its where you belong,,,Thanks again your letter brought tears to my eyes, thinking there is hope for the future women !!

  48. laura_parker

    August 11, 2013 at 12:58 am

    Exactly, the quicker he accepts this fact the quicker he’s going to get over that thing.